I’m in love. Yes, I’m in love with a married man! John Barrowman has official become my new crush. Unfortunately for us single guys he was married last December to his partner of 15 years in Wales. The Scottish-born actor is the star of the hit BBC series ‘Torchwood,’ just now beginning to air in the US on BBC America.

John’s character, Capt. Jack Harkness, is a time agent from the 51st century who ends up leading a team of alien investigators in current day Britain. The series is a spinoff of ‘Doctor Who’ where Jack was introduced in 2005 as one of The Doctor’s companions. Equally comfortable flirting and locking lips with men and women, Capt. Jack is a modern day gay superhero who saves the world from alien threats — not unlike Capt. Astro and Rage from ‘Queer As Folk.’

Only this gay superhero is not just fiction. Barrowman himself is a hero and inspiration to many a gay man, myself included. His infectious charm, wit and charisma not only shines in the characters he plays, but also radiates in the way he portrays himself.